Deb Ingino

Roadblock

So what is it for you?

What is preventing you from moving forward?

When you discover the key to unlock your motivation that is a liberating moment.  Oh sure you'll still hit roadblocks but you won't be diverted for long.

My Wired Style is primarily D and when I lose control it sucks the energy right out of my plans, its like sail when the wind dies down....just drifting.  Good thing I know what to do about it and how to quickly stem the tide.  I move into my ideal environment.  I assess what I can control and do.  I discover what I can't control and learn that my strengths and skills are best displayed under pressure and how I can handle the change and move forward.

What is it for you that is your trigger point to a roadblock?

More important how can you reduce the likelihood of it derailing your success?

 

New Meaning?

To Those Who have Served And Gave The Ultimate Sacrifice...Thank You!

Memorial Day is one of those holidays we all look forward to but not quite because of the original intent of the observance.

Of course some towns have a parade.

Some have sales at the department store.

Some have community events.

But lets face it the meaning of the day of observance has changed for some of us.  We think backyard barbecues, kick-off to summer and more instead of remembering the brave ones who dedicated their time and for some their life, so we can be free.

The same is true with pursuing a new focus.  Sometimes that activity can morph into something completely new...maybe we become so enamored with an author we go off and read 4 more of his books and take no action.  Or maybe we allow a workshop to be hijacked into a gripe session and nothing meaningful happens.  Or worse, maybe we lose track of the core purpose we set out for...to find out new focus.  To identify the intersection where our strengths and passions meet.

If that has happened to you, rest assured it has happened to us all from time to time.  

Pull out the mission you set out for in the first place.

Go back to square one and begin again.

Stay engaged and use a timeline, mentor or coach.

And then move into the next part of your life which may very well be the best part of our life.

And today...remember that we are free because some did not loose their focus, or give new meaning to their mission and they gave all. 

Deb

 

 

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Toilet Paper Wired Styles....

It is a holiday weekend so lets take a fun look at wired styles...

I'm fairly certain that in our home I have the most important job there is...I am the keeper of the T.P.  

I seem to be the one who worries if we have enough stock.

I ensure its 2ply softness.

And I am convinced that I seem to have ample opportunity to add a new role when I enter the bathroom.

Now you know I espouse the belief that our wired style shows up everywhere...and it does.  This illustration proves it.

 

So to explain my attempt at TP humor here goes.

D wired folks will tend to leave an empty roll because we're sure someone else will come along and change it.

I wired folks are the ones that purchase TP in colors other than white, or with images on them.

S wired folks will be sure that they serve up what ever your choice is 1ply, 2 ply, large rolls, small rolls, they've got i covered.

C wired folks want it neat.  No tattered edges and a perfect fold..even better.

Extreme sure but here's a big question ... what is the proper way to put it on the roll ... over or under?

As for me, I'm an over the top gal...

And you?

Thanks for having fun on this one!

 

Returning To The Scene Of The Dream

            

 

 

Returning to the
Scene of the Dream

 

 

There are times in life when something really big happens.  And we remember vividly where we were, what we were doing, who was with us - every little detail.  The moment is frozen in time. 

 

You all know I'm a New York gal, and I love the city - the lights, the activity, the hustle and bustle.  I find it all energizing.  And I've traveled the world through the years - Paris, London, Rio - all those dreamy places we associate with finding some deep meaning in life.

 

So you would think that somewhere between New York and Rio, I would have found my dream, right?  Wrong.

 

Oddly enough, my dream became reality in a converted barn in Franklin, Tennessee!  (Did I mention I'm a New York gal????)  I remember vividly the day I sat down by phone with Dan Miller while he was in his office there, I was one of his very fortunate coaching clients.  As we talked, I began to realize that my life of being a successful executive was not as fulfilling as I had envisioned it to be.  Something was missing.  That something was significance.  I needed to do something meaningful with my life - something that made a difference to others.

 

And then it became crystal clear - I could combine my passion for coaching people in their strengths using DISC Wiring profiles with my strengths of leading and teach others how to find their strengths. 

 

At that moment, my dream was born!

 

This past weekend, I returned to the scene of the dream. 

I was thrilled to be able to attend Dan's Coaching with Excellence workshop and received a wealth of information that will help me help others.  I have to admit, it was even more meaningful to me because I was returning to where it all started.  It was exciting to remember where I was when the idea first hit me, and to realize that I was actually living that dream.

 

This is something we should all do once in awhile - return to the scene of the dream.  It helps us refocus, it encourages us to see how far we've come, and it will inspire us to carry it to the next level. 

 

In this case, the next level for me is personal coaching, so this workshop was invaluable in that regard.  I am already working with several clients and am excited to see them progressing toward their dreams.

 

If you have a dream, revisit it.  Think about where you've been, where you are, and where you want to take it next.  If you haven't made that dream a reality yet, perhaps personal coaching would help you as it helped me.  If that is the case, please contact me.  I'd love to help YOU find that moment in time when YOUR dream is born.

 

 

 Dream.  Do.  Investigate.  Do More.

Anything less...is a crime!

 

 

 

Coaching Client Experience

 

A coaching client of mine attended a Father's Heart Weekend event and was amazed at the experience.  Check this out. 

Who knows?  It might just be the scene of your (or your son's) dream.

 

 

Deb

 

 

I'm Disappointed With Me

Disappointment comes to each of us.

For me this week, it's being disappointed in myself and how I gained back 14 of the 53 pounds I have lost so far.  Ughhh! This sets my plan of 100 more pounds even further back. 

I know how it happened.

I know why it happened.

But I also know that I can change the tide right now.  

What I need is a dose of hope.

Disappointment comes and goes but hope will always follow. 

Maybe you're a bit disappointed today too.

Maybe you need a dose of good old fashioned hope.  If so, I hope these words will be the catalyst for you to see your future brighter.

You are a gift.  Your strengths are ones that this very day someone somewhere is praying for.  You have everything inside of you that is needed for you to move into the fullness of the person you were meant to become.

Take a deep breath.

Take another.

One more.

Now close your eyes and think about your greatest fear.

Got it?

Now a few more deep breathes.

Smile because you're about to move in a new direction.

Now close your eyes and think about the most outrageous positive outcome that you are quite sure is impossible, an outcome that would blow you away.

Open your eyes.

Got it.

Now read these words:  IT IS POSSIBLE

I am reminded of these words Jesus spoke in the book of Matthew Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."

Now go do the impossible, with God riding shotgun.

 

Deb

 

 

 

Connecting

Social media is a hoot!  Literally it is!

Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, are all great ways to connect with some rally fine folks.  But making it intentional is key.

Its easy today to be connected with lots of people but being connected and connecting are 2 different things.

Connecting means relationship, and that implies 2 way communication. It means I need to listen twice as much as I talk and you know what...so do you, to the people you want to learn from.

Sure social media makes it easy to be connected and there is a rich tapestry of folks that you can learn a ton from. I know I do.  But be sure to keep an open ear for some great info and by all means, pass it on to the rest of us so we can stay connected.

 

GPS Much?

It is the eve of our daughter's College graduation (personally I'm not sure how my hubby and I have a 22 year old ..but alas we do!) and I am thinking back to a short story I wrote to describe the events just a few years back the day before her High School graduation. 

We all need guidance, instruction, navigating tools and for each of us its different. 

In order to grow into being the line leader in kindergarten or CEO of a billion dollar company, we each need something or someone that gives us direction. 

I love the folks in my inner circle who provide guidance, mentorship, and honesty, keeping me focused on whether my activities are in line with my goals or not.

What's your GPS?

If you don't have one...get one (a plan that is!)

And I would like to share the short story I wrote when our Mella Bella was graduating from Hight School and it was wonderful to pull it out and read it once more again tonight.

Hope you enjoy it too!

 

Navigation

It’s the eve of our daughter’s high school graduation and there, among the shoes strewn across the floor, the left over battery package and remnants of the pre prom parent/graduate party from the evening before, I sit.  I don’t know why I sat motionless just soaking in the silence.  But I did.  As I sat there thinking I wondered if the gifts we selected for her graduation were right.  

 

Lets see, first a print from her favorite artist.  Funny story about this gift, it became the gift that just kept on giving.  You see a short while after I ordered the print, I received an email blast from the artist that he had some of his original artwork going up for sale. I immediately clicked on the link and found a terrific pencil sketch that I knew Melissa would just love.  So, despite the fact that I had already ordered and received a (non returnable) limited edition print, I went ahead and ordered an original sketch as well.  When I emailed the artist I told him the work I was interested in purchasing and that it was for our daughter’s graduation and that he was her favorite artist.  The order was placed.   One week later the shipment arrived, a lovely original pencil sketch and something more.  A second pen sketch with 3 animal characters on it, and the words “All things magical for you Melissa” and he signed his name.   I was so grateful for his amazing generosity and was sure that Melissa would love it too.   

 

Now of course the gifts marking this momentous occasion did not end there.

 

There was the daily devotional for high school graduates and the “Oh The Places You’ll Go” book by Dr. Seuss.  We’ve always loved that book and inside the front page I placed a personal note to my daughter.  There had been a scripture on my heart for months that I was led to share just with her.

 

My husband, ever the kid at heart, surprised me by buying an electronic game.  He said it was for Melissa for graduation but somehow I secretly wondered if it wasn’t a gift for him.  However he committed this was a gift she would love and appreciate.

 

I’m not sure if it was that my husband and I were both shocked that she, 

our offspring, 

our gene pool, 

our flesh and blood 

actually withstood 12 agonizing years of the both of us all the while enduring school, but both of us seemed focused on marking this milestone event in her life as special for her and suppose for us.  I think this manifested itself in our inability to recognize this moment into one “special” gift.

 

Then I remembered that our daughter had mentioned that a navigation system for the car was something she was hoping for as a graduation gift.  Now considering that I was recently driving eastbound on the south shore of Long Island, with Melissa and when I asked her what direction we were going in and she responded  “north”, I figured it might just be the perfect gift.  

 

So out I went to a well-known electronics giant to buy a navigation system.  The young man who helped me was well versed in the features and benefits of each system and immediately directed me away from the most expensive to a more moderately priced unit with similar features.  He was really helpful and I was taken by several of its’ features.  The first was that the screen was actually readable.  Yep even a foot away, attached to the windshield this screen can be seen.  The second feature I was impressed with was that the unit was portable (now I could justify buying it by knowing I could use it in my car if needed).  And the third feature that I found compelling was that, you could actually choose the language it spoke in, you know French, Spanish, English and the every popular and endearing, British English!  Hey if its going to provide directions in a delightful, Mary Poppin's like British accent, we needed it!

 

So I made the purchase. 

 

As I happily skipped off to my car, satisfied in the fact that I loved my soon to be high school graduate so much that I wanted to ensure not only that she never got lost, but was also guided by a lovely, calming voice, I suddenly realized that this navigation system is nothing. 

 

Zip

          Nada

                            Zero

                                            Nothing at all

 

Completely worthless at the end of the day.

 

Sure no matter where she is, she can program in our home address and it will take her right back to her warm, humble abode, but I realized sitting in my car that it’s the ultimate navigation system of our Heavenly Father that provides true navigation.   

 

There is a lovely calming voice in the center of her being that tells her when He is delighted in what she does, tells her how special she is to Him, helps her to realize when she’s taken the wrong road and gently guides her back to Him.

 

 

That is navigation indeed!

 

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Navigate well my friends....

 

Deb

 

 

Gear You Can't Live Without?

Truth be told I've never been camping per se, well at least not by most standards.

I have been out in the woods,

in a cabin, with the nearest starbucks 7 miles away.

That is close enough to camping for this New York girl but....

There is something absolutely charming about the thought of camping.  

Nature

Freeedom

No alarm

But I do know enough about camping from folks that do camp to know that packing your gear is essential.

There can be extreme weather conditions.

Lack of adequate water.

Lack of a good food source.

If you plan on any physical activities you may need gear to fish, go rock climbing and more.

All of this leads to what gear will be essential for the trip.   That is key...pack your grear.

What I find remarkable is that sometimes we put more thought into a family camping trip than we do the rest of our lives.  

What gear do you need to navigate well?

As leaders, we need to think in these terms.

What gear do you need to have available to make the trip enjoyable and provide you with an opportunity to work with the conditions you encounter?

What gear can you NOT live without?

What about those you serve?